Solitude means loneliness. Can loneliness be a man’s best friend? It helps the person attain goals, it helps practice concentration, it helps the person meditate to relax and it gives time for the person for his own self. Being lonely is a boon, not a bane. Welcome your loneliness.
To get rid of loneliness is not the real solution but to attain real solitude is what gives the real pleasure and the real relaxation. Saints continuously search of it, the religious preachers suggest for it and the doctors suggest it to their patients. Why is solitude so important?
To get rid ofloneliness means to run away from something. That something is nothing but from our own. Running from the problem is not the real solution. Some people get married to get rid of loneliness which instead of solving the problem raises further question on the life of both the individuals.
When you start enjoying the time when you are alone, you are on the right track. Victor Hugo said, ‘the most powerful person in the world is the one who is alone i.e. self-dependant’. When you are alone you are self-dependant. There is no reliance on others.
Students often share rooms to save the rent and stay three or four in a room or flat. Some of them bear the sharing just because they save money however from inside they don’t want it thatway. This brings irritation in their behaviour and a bad habit of accusing others.
There have been students or professionals who when lived alone were frustrated but when they shifted their rooms and stayed alone they found real changes in their lives though the cost was greater. But does anything cost greater than mental relaxation.
Being lonely is not what can be easily achieved. In a deeper sense it means being lonely from everything, even the thoughts. Get rid of the evil thoughts and even the good thoughts. Hindus had a system where they claimed that they could make an old person young.
They did this by keeping that person out of the society for a definite period of time. When the person got nothing to think upon his mental problems got healed. Controlled diets improved his body.
This person was not allowed to talk to anyone. He was the only person in the room and he could feel nothing about the society. Crowd is the real reason of why people lose temper easily these days. Once you enjoy being lonely you won’t ever try to mingle with others or to run away from solitude.