The success in life is often directly proportional to a successful social life and for a successful social life the most important lesson is to say ‘No’. Majority of people in this world are middleclass and the reason for this is they don’t know how to say no in a proper manner. Some do it easily but in the process of doing this they become curt. This should be done in such a manner that it appears courteous as well as at the same time the message is conveyed.
Some do it bluntly. This is not recommended. While saying no haveplenty of reasons with you and try to make the other person understand that why you are not the right person or why you can’t do what they are expecting out of you and suggest them other alternatives that they could look upon. Majority of times the problems are solved in this manner.
If despite telling them they keep pushing you, don’t remain that soft. Bring firmness in your voice but remember not to be curt while being firm. Firmly repeat your statement and your reason for saying no. Have strong reasons otherwise they may get stronger than you.
Those who find this most uncomfortable have a feeling that the others have a good feeling about them; however the real scene is quite different. Those who do everything as per the others’ likings areoften treated as fools and they are often made fun of from behind. They are treated well in person but seldom praised as they are not strong enough at their decisions.
Success in life is all upon the strong determination and the power of decision. All the managers and business leaders have this power of decision making. Unless they are good at taking decisions it is not possible that they acquire higher positions. At times they have to fight with others to stand their point. The lesson here is not to change the statement if someone you admire is in front of you unless there are strong reasons for that.
It is better to understand that no relations are worth if the performance is poor. Observe the people who say ‘No’ easily. They have their place in public and are seldom in trouble while those poor at this get their problems doubled as they keep regretting why they didn’t speak up just to make the others happy.