Rare is the social and organizational success of people who do not know the art of saying ‘No‘. The best of leaders had mastered this art. This forms a part of communication skills and is essential for personal growth and self improvement. Job seekers often include good communication skills as their strength in the resume (CV) however majority of them are unaware of how to say ‘No’ to someone they don’t want to spoil relations with.
Such people are often misused by others as just because they can’t say no they are often given the jobs that they were not supposedto do. If such non-acceptable offers are not rejected at the first time they continue to keep coming which ultimately results into poor performance of that employee at the time of appraisal despite the toughest labour throughout the year.
The employee then develops habit of accusing the managers and the organization for what it had given for that entire work he had done during his service period. In reality he is at fault but he doesn’t accept and stays worried all the time.
There are two major reasons why people hesitate in saying ‘No’.
2) To maintain good relations with all
To overcome the problem of fear, the best solution is tostart doing this with small proposals. There are times when it is really difficult but most of the times it can be done. Make up your mind that nothing is going to happen and it is you who will decide what to do and what not to do, not the others. A little bit of attitude is necessary for survival.
To maintain good relations is not a valid reason. There are seldom good relations in the organization. Get it well with in your mind that all are professionals in the organization and each one of them is trying to get ahead of the others. Observe those around you. Many of them fight each other every day and are friendly again. Do not try to make relations but communicate in the organization.